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  • 17 April 26

    I Had a Spiral Today… And Then I Didn’t

    I had one of those moments today where everything just felt like too much. Nothing actually happened — which almost made it more confusing. I was just sitting there, and suddenly my brain went into overdrive. Thoughts everywhere, that overwhelming feeling in my chest, like I needed an escape from something I couldn’t even properly…

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    healing, life, love, mental-health
  • 7 April 26

    Auntie Energy: All the Love, None of the Bedtime Battles 💅✨

    I’m childfree by choice — and honestly? I’ve realised something: My niblings (including future ones) are more than enough for me. Because being the auntie is ELITE. I get the cuddles.The chaos.The “look what I made!” moments.The Disney singalongs.The slightly-too-much sugar energy. I get to be the fun, safe, sparkly adult in their world…and then…

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  • 23 March 26

    ✨ Is My Life Allowed to Be This Good? ✨

    I had a thought recently that I didn’t quite know what to do with. Is my life… allowed to be this good? And I know how that sounds.A bit dramatic. A bit over the top. But it came from a very real place. Because lately, things have felt… good.Calm.Steady. And for some reason, that can…

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    blog, life, love, mental-health, writing
  • 7 February 26

    Today Was A Lot.

    Today was one of those days where life just… interrupted itself. I went to hospital for tests, had scans, waited around, worried, overthought, and rode that familiar wave of what if something’s really wrong. The kind of day that leaves your body tired and your brain loud, even when you’re eventually sent home with reassurance.…

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  • 31 January 26

    What a Week.

    Gallstones found. Wedding booked. Same week. Same me. 🤣 One minute I’m being told my body has decided to grow tiny internal rocks like it’s starting a collection. Next minute I’m signing paperwork like yes actually, I would like to marry the love of my life. 💍 If you ever wondered what my life feels…

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  • 30 January 26

    OMG I’M GETTING MARRIED

    I keep typing that sentence and then just… staring at it. Because today we signed the contract.Like, properly signed it. Pens. Paper. Names.The real kind of signed. And now my wedding is confirmed. I thought this moment would feel loud. Screamy. Crying-on-the-floor energy.But instead it feels… calm. Soft. Slightly unreal. Like my brain is still…

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  • 20 January 26

    Maybe 18 Is Still Too Young

    This isn’t a hot take.It’s not a moral panic.It’s just something I’ve been sitting with. We’re told that 18 is the magic number.Adult. Ready. Informed. Capable. But if you ask me — and you are, because you’re reading this —18 is still very young.Especially when it comes to adult content. At 18, most people are…

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  • 19 October 25

    🌈 Saying Goodbye to Rainbow Balloons

    There’s something strange about reading your old writing — like time-traveling back into the head of someone you used to be. Recently, I re-read parts of my book Rainbow Balloons for the first time in years, and… wow. Cringe levels: off the charts 😭 But underneath that secondhand embarrassment, there was something tender. Because Rainbow…

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  • 18 October 25

    💭 If Things Had Been Different

    Every now and then, I catch myself wondering what my life might have looked like if things had been different. Not out of regret — more out of curiosity. That soft, far-off kind that drifts in when you’re making tea or staring out of the window. The kind that asks “what if?” but doesn’t expect…

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  • 8 October 25

    🎈 Pop Song – Finding Colour Again

    8 October 2025 · by Asten I’ve started working on Pop Song again — the story that grew out of Rainbow Balloons and that little part of me that used to want to be a decorator. It’s funny how old dreams resurface in new shapes, isn’t it? At its heart, Pop Song is about fear…

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